Boundaries with Children

The word “boundaries” seems like a negative or oppressive word.  However, with children the opposite is true.  Children must have boundaries or they will run over adults and authority over them.  When we change our mindset to the fact that we are raising adults, it helps put it into perspective.  A child who is never told, “no” or allowed to do whatever they please, will grow up disrespectful, and out of control.  God has given us our children to have authority over them, not in an authoritarian manner but in an authoritative manner.  The parent who uses authority in positive ways to guide, prepare, and set them up for success is a good parent.  

As we know in life, we must recognize authority over us, in all areas of our journey—our boss, coaches, the police, the laws of the land etc.  The child who has not been taught to listen and respect that authority will struggle.  That is why now is the time to let them know who is in charge and who has the control over them.  Then as they grow and mature, that control is released little by little to let them have a little more autonomy until one day they are ready to be a contributing member of society.  But it begins in childhood.