Independent Spirits

We have heard it said that independence in children is so needed and especially when they begin school. A teacher truly appreciates a child who can do things for themselves. This helps so much in a classroom setting of 10 or 12 children. It also builds their self confidence and makes them be self-fortified.

But let’s take it a step further and recognize that the more children can do independently, the less they look for opportunities to gain power from others. That is a bold statement but actually makes a lot of sense. If a child is comfortable in their own skin and is growing and developing appropriately, they don’t have to threaten or bully others to get what they need. The same works with adults—if we feel safe and secure, we don’t have the need to gain power or act authoritarian over others.

So how do I build this security and confidence in my child? One way is by allowing them to do things for themselves and recognizing it will not be perfect, but it is okay. And it will get better with practice and maturity. You are raising an adult and this mindset helps propel you to give them freedom little by little as they can handle it. It allows them to grow and expand with you close-by to help when needed. But only when needed. We learn by doing. So let’s give them the trust and guidance to do it.

Happy Spring!!